Friday, February 22, 2008

the song remembers when

I’m sitting at my desk, the cold snow blowing outside, the warm space heater keeping my feet toasty. I have my headphones in because, well, without music to sooth my soul I sometimes lack the strength to make it through my work day. I usually only listen to instrumental music so that I am not distracted by lyrics, and, thanks to good friends, I have a several cd’s copied onto my office computer. I can usually make it through the day without really noticing the music other than that it helps me tone down my angry feelings (work is not a happy place, can you tell?) One song, though, always manages to completely lift me out of my concentration.

Somebody and I spent the first part of our honeymoon in Park City, an often hoity toity mountain resort, at the best bed and breakfast ever. Our big splurge, though, was not on the hotel. It was on the food. We both appreciate fine food and enjoy finding excuses to blow our hard-earned money on exquisitely prepared cuisine. My favorite dining experience of that week was at a little restaurant called Bistro 412 on Main St. in Park City.

We were sitting outside, enjoying the most divine coconut curry mussels in the world, and my attention turned to the music playing. It was an instrumental recording of Edelweiss, one of my favorite tunes. I distinctly remember sitting there, my napkin stained with the bright yellow of the curry, the sweet tang of the sauce in the mouth, listening to this beautiful song and looking over at Somebody and realizing that I had never been happier in my life. How lucky was I that the music, the food, and the location, while all wonderful in their own right, were eclipsed by the person sitting across from me?

Even now, whenever I hear that song I am instantly taken back to that moment.
Everyone has songs that will transport them to another place and time and bring up memories, both good and bad, from the past. What is your remembering song?

Thursday, February 14, 2008

Wednesday, February 06, 2008

because i said so

Go here. Just because you should. And watch the video. Now. And then tell me what you think about it.

like having the wind knocked out

I hate Phoenix. My stupid resort hotel has this stupid, secluded hot tub tucked away in this stupid little alcove next to a stupid waterfall. And because this end of the stupid resort is pretty empty right now, this stupid hot tub has been unused and so inviting, and so I put on my stupid suit and flip flops and made my way up there late last night. It was like stupid rock climbing, I’m sure, if rock climbing is at all like climbing stairs made of rock in flip flops. And then, stupid!, I tripped myself and ended up stubbing my toe on the rock. But I kept on going and enjoyed a soak in the tub, all the while curious as to why my toe might still be throbbing. And then I got back to my stupid hotel room and looked at my toe. Ouch. Pain all night. Pain all day. No sock or shoe is comfortable, but my white flip flops don’t look too hot when worn with my black suit. Dang, Phoenix. You lure me in with your oranges and friends, and then you trip me with nature and laugh at my pain.

Tuesday, February 05, 2008

if it tasted any fresher it would still be on the tree

I am in Phoenix this week for work meetings, and while I sometimes pretend that there is anything at all that I enjoy about work meetings I think my family is clear that the real reason I’m excited about Phoenix is that I get to spend some time with the lovely Housewife and her Jim Bob and Munchkin. Our Utah life included very few married friends (we love the friends we already had when we were single and saw absolutely no reason to get some new ones when we got married) and were sad to leave this one married friend behind. They left right after us, though, and are living it up in sunny Phoenix.

Anyway, we love these kids. We feel okay calling them kids because they are young and we are old, and we like to joke about how they are kids having kids, and what is this world coming to what with all the kids and their Hammer pants?, but then I see the great outfits that Housewife puts together and I listen to Jim Bob talk about noodling, and I know the future is safe in their hands.

Housewife picked me up from my hotel and took me straight to the mall where I could be good and jealous that they have a billion stores that I could only dream of shopping in. Then we went back to their place and they rubbed in my face the fact that they live in a house with five citrus trees in the backyard. I know. Green (orange?) with envy over here.
Oh, the happy days I would enjoy having all the oranges I could care to eat. Jim Bob got busy making some juice and I ruined my dinner by downing every last drop.
But people, it’s not the mall or the juice that made this evening wonderful (although the juice was pretty high up there). It was the company. The complete comfort of not having to worry about having things to talk about, or making sure you always agree, or having commonalities (we already know we have them!). These kids, well, they are smart and funny and engaging and just a delight to be with. When I relayed Somebody with tales of the evening he actually asked me to please stop telling him because he was so jealous that he couldn’t be there, too. Yeah. They are that cool.

Shopping. Oranges. Excellent conversation. I think I like Phoenix.

Sunday, February 03, 2008

sweet like cotton candy

My siblings produce freakishly good-looking children, and the latest edition from my younger sister is no exception. There are few things that can shut out the world like holding a tiny, sleeping baby.

Saturday, February 02, 2008

the final present

My attempts at homemade Christmas presents kind of failed. Wait. Am I talking about Christmas in February? You got that right, sister. I finally, finally completed my sister’s Christmas present and was relieved to finally deliver it when we went up to visit this weekend. I had seen the idea a year or so ago, promptly forgot the site with the template, decided I wished I remembered, begged and pleaded anyone I could think of who might know where to direct me, and then, and an answer to prayer, found what I was looking for. And that was the easy part. I’m still learning the intricacies of Photoshop, and while I really want us to be BFFs and braid each other’s hair while watching Girls Just Want to have Fun, our relationship has been nothing if not rocky as Photoshop refuses to behave like any other program I’m familiar with. Woe is me, I know. (Side note, if any of you know a good web site that has Photoshop tutorials, please direct me.) Anyway, after hours of work, then rework once I realized I’d created everything with a sucky resolution, and then with guidance from a genius coworker in transferring the files from Photoshop to Illustrator to Adobe, I was finally able to print and glue. But, oh! The books. The books. The books. I thought using blank board books was genius until I realized that there is no where in the greater Kansas City area where you can walk in a buy them, and that if you call a store because they show them in stock online but the store tells you they don’t have them in the store, you shouldn’t go to that store thinking the phone girl was mistaken because you might end up spending an hour sorting through dirty books with the misplaced hope that somehow one ended up in the bargain bin without any employees noticed. And then you will get mad and hate Christmas.
I ended up ordering the books online, and was happy (Happy!) to read that they were the perfect number of pages for a complete alphabet and then sad (Sad!) when they arrived and I realized they were counting each page twice, those sneakers. Oh, and the glue. Good nelly, you would think it would be easier to find a reasonably priced paper adhesive that would also work as a top finishing coat. Trial and error. I was able to glue the paper down, but no top coat.

Blah blah blah, I’m finished and I’m pleased with the final result. The whole process has taken so much emotion and time that nothing short of my sister and her family jumping for joy and singing loudly the praises of my good work would have made me feel like it was worth it. Um. It wasn’t worth it. I think she already has a few books with the alphabet, and I think she might like those ones better. Oh well. Live and learn. Buy from China.

Friday, February 01, 2008

to catch a fly

One of my coworkers gave me this gift for my birthday. I had heard about the Venus Flytrap, and, to be honest, thought it would be a lot more exciting than it is. I was hoping the traps would snap shut the second a fly landed, and that I would be all grossed out, and startled, and delighted to see it in action. Sadly, it doesn’t work that way. It must be catching flies because it is still alive, but I’ve never seen it in action. The hope that someday I’ll see a plant eat an animal is what keeps me coming in to work each day.

Thursday, January 31, 2008

to judge it's ripeness

Somebody and I agree on many things, but the perfect ripeness of a banana is not one of them. While we both appreciate the health benefits of a good banana, we have very different ideas about when a banana is good and ready to be eaten.

I say it should be eaten as soon as possible, preferably while it is still a little green. I appreciate the firmness because, well, I’m not all that fond of the texture of bananas, and get a little creeped out when they get mushy, and have even asked my four-year-old nephew to peel them for me because I can’t stand the thought of putting pressure on the any part of the banana for fear brownish mush patches will touch my hands. Not crazy. Somebody thinks they are perfect just shy of bread-worthy, and reminds me often that all the best nutrients of bananas are in their brownness. Sometimes I take an overripe banana just to please him. Hence, the banana of today. He thinks it isn’t quite ripe enough. I think it’s so ripe that I kind of want to throw it away and not tell him. But I shall eat it. But someone else is going to have to peel it.

Wednesday, January 30, 2008

i'll always be irish

I have this plant that I bought in, oh, 1999. His name is Spidey. He’s a spider plant, and joined the family when we lived in the soap opera house and had a gorgeous corner kitchen window. He loved that window, and grew and thrived there. He survived the move north, to the tiny apartment of unemployment, and then the duplex of contention, and then the condo of the committee. It was in the condo that I decided that what he maybe really wanted was a day in the sun. Have you ever put your indoor plants out on the deck for the day? Yeah. They don’t like it. He got a horrible sunburn and I ended up having to trim his leaves back to only an inch long. No one thought he would survive. And yet, somehow, like we all do, he made it back from the lowest low. I took him with me to the last roommate, and then he was my companion in the lonely basement until I got married. Now he has an honored place in the Kansas basement, and I just can’t picture an apartment or home without him. I know it’s just a plant, but for some reason I find a lot of comfort in knowing that something else has been there all along—that something else has had rough times and made it through and that we are still alive and well together. I love this plant. At some point in his life, I think maybe in the condo of unemployment, he got a pot companion. We call him the Pot Luck of the Irish. It’s a long name, I know, but he’s a pretty handsome little leprechaun. And the two have never been parted.

And there you have it. One of the five things I would save in a fire. My laptop, my wedding blanket, my purse, my baby scrapbook, and Spidey.

Update: To clarify that last sentence: In church a few weeks ago we had to fill out a survey (to be used in Relief Society Feud? I don’t know.) and the last question was “If your house was on fire, what five things would you go back in to save?” I spent most of the meeting silently pondering that question and not only missed the connection between the lesson on Jesus Christ in the manual and the lesson on past general RS presidents that was presented, but also had the hardest time coming up with five things. First, I reasoned, in a fire all people will already be out. Obviously. Because otherwise there go four of my options. Second, it’s just a fire. I’m not picking the only five things I’ll ever have for the rest of my life. Most of the things I own are replaceable. Scriptures? Books? Clothes? Furniture? Toilet Paper? All completely replaceable. Third, I figured that, no matter when the fire happened, I would be wearing my wedding ring and my watch, so I wouldn’t need to go back for those things. And my purse would have my credit cards, SS card, passport, and camera, so those things are all taken care of, too. You see, I really did think long and hard about this very important, life altering question. And that’s how Spidey made the list.

Monday, January 28, 2008

to guide us in these latter days

I received the news via text message and then raced to the computer to find additional details. Of course the Utah media pages were swamped so it was difficult to connect. We were finally able to get one page to load. (Channel 2 news, are you not as popular as the rest? Weird, because you were always my news channel of choice.) It just doesn’t seem real. And I’m a little surprised at how emotional my response has been. As we went to bed last night, teary and somber, I realized that my thoughts were almost entirely on how happy he must be to be with his beloved wife again, and I found my comfort in the strength of my testimony of eternal families and that our dearest relationships in this life will continue in the next. So today, a moment of silence. For a life well lived. For a conviction that was steadfast and immovable. For a sense of humor and optimism that inspired. For a love that 13 million people felt and savored. For a voice that guided and reassured. For a prophet who lived what he believed and made it a little easier for us to live our beliefs as well.

Saturday, January 26, 2008

the benefits of an interracial marriage

Say what you will, because I sure did before I tried it, but there aren’t many things more creamy and refreshing than a good, old-fashioned, musk melon ice bar. It’s like taffy and cream got married in your mouth, and honeydew was the best man but made out with the bride so had to change his name to musk melon and has been frowned upon ever since, but that didn’t make the wedding any less lovely. Yeah. That good.

Friday, January 25, 2008

this time last year

This time last year we were getting ready to spend two and a half weeks in China and Taiwan. This time last year I was all busy being nervous about meeting my in-laws and not having anything to say to them. This time last year we were compiling photos and other evidence to prove our relationship. This time last year I did not own this cool bracelet you see in this photo. It was one of the few items we purchased in China, and it is something falls in to the category of "I love it but never have anything to wear it with."

Thursday, January 24, 2008

cravings

We went back to the Chinese place, but this time it was because at some point during the day I got a craving for egg rolls. Weird. I don't even like egg rolls. But I had one, you know, because of the craving. When we pulled into the parking lot it was almost completely packed and we were a little worried that the restaurant would be packed, too. Had everyone heard about their great donuts? Their fantastic steamed buns? Their delicious peanut chicken, which, I'm sorry, is just the most delicious poultry ever? Stealing ourselves for a crowd, we walked in only to find the place, once again, completely empty. "Would you like this table?" the waitress asked. "Same one as last time?" What the? She remembered us? They must not get that much business. People are so missing out.
Later we realized that the crowd in the parking lot was for the bar next door. Huh. All you can eat buffet, or $4/glass beverages? Kansas is so different from Utah.

Wednesday, January 23, 2008

the beauty behind us

I am lucky in that my commute takes me away from the rising sun and away from the setting sun. I am glad that not only do I not have to drive into the brightness, but also that I have views like this in my mirrors each day.

Tuesday, January 22, 2008

jealousy

My coworker has the coolest earrings. At first glace, indoors, I could hardly see the green part, but as soon as we walked outside and the sun shone through the earrings, they were just gorgeous. How could I NOT take a picture?

Monday, January 21, 2008

my human right to fake travel

Somehow we talked my parents into a rousing game of Journey Through Europe for family home evening. I remember playing this a lot as a kid, and I remember really enjoying it but never winning, and also that one of my siblings later admitted to cheating so that he could win. Maybe I made that last part up, but it seems like a real memory. Anyway, this game is like the first edition of Ticket to Ride, and has more complicated rules and also countries and cities that existed in 1987 but don't exist anymore. And you don't build a train route, you just travel around to all your different cities. So, it's the same, but also different. Good times.
After this game we tried "Likes and Gripes," which wasn't nearly as fun, but there was one point where we were laughing so hard that some of us might have been crying. And now I can't even remember what was so funny, but, man, was it funny. That was about as interesting as me telling you about my dreams, wasn't it?

Sunday, January 20, 2008

how you know you're a couple

From the party last night...

Saturday, January 19, 2008

wonderful girl and boy land

We volunteered to host a little going-away party for a family in our ward (who, sadly, are returning to their home in Argentina after unsuccessfully trying to achieve the "American Dream" for five years) and so I was allowed to make desserts on a non-Sunday. It was better then Christmas. I went with a favorite cookie, and after trying it, you shall declare it one of your favorites, too. Oatmeal Raisin Cookies
Ingredients:
3 eggs, beaten
1 cup raisins
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
½ teaspoon almond extract
1 cup butter
1 cup packed brown sugar
1 cup white sugar
2 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
2 teaspoons baking soda
2 cups rolled oats (grind at least half in a food processor)

Directions:
Combine eggs, vanilla & almond extract, and raisins in a small bowl; cover and let stand for 1 hour.
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C).
In a large bowl, cream the butter, brown sugar, and white sugar together. Sift together the flour, cinnamon, and baking soda; stir into the creamed mixture. Then stir in the raisin mixture, rolled oats, and nuts.
Drop by teaspoonfuls onto an unprepared cookie sheet. Bake for 9 minutes, or until lightly browned.

Makes about 6 dozen

A word of warning. I love these cookies the day they are made. I enjoy them the next day. I can't bring myself to eat them past day three. I'm not sure what it is, but for me they go all dry and crumbly and inedible. But, I'm a cookie snob. My point: I wouldn't recommend making them in advance of an event--they are definitely "day of" baking.

In related cooking news, I was finally able to make some Cincinnati* Chili, which I have been wanted to make for dinner for about a month, but the whole "simmer for three hours" thing makes it pretty impossible to achieve on a work night. I swapped dinner nights with Somebody and took advantage of the Saturday to cook. Anything that produces a sauce the same bright orange color as my favorite spoon is bound to be delicious.

Cincinnati Chili
4 cups water
2 lbs hamburger
1 tsp cinnamon
1 tsp ground cumin
2 lg. chopped onions
1 tsp Worcestershire sauce
3 garlic cloves (spear with toothpick)
2 Tbsp chili powder
1 tsp black pepper
½ tsp red chili pepper (optional)
1 Tbsp salt
1 ½ tsp ground allspice
1 can kidney beans
6 oz can tomato paste
1 ½ Tbsp cider vinegar
3 lg whole bay leaves

Crumble raw hamburger into water, add all ingredients. Bring to boil, simmer 3 hrs. Remove garlic cloves and bay leaves.
Pile on plate: angel hair pasta noodles, grated cheese, chili, oyster crackers

Notes: I think next time I will just mince the garlic instead of trying to fish it out. I enjoy the garlic flavor and it pretty much melts away anyway. This time I also cooked the ground beef for a little while before adding the water, just to get more of the "browned beef" texture. I think that I would do that again, but add less water because for some reason it ended up very liquidy. Also, don't think that the three hours of simmering is a joke. We tried to get away with 20 minutes of simmering one time and it was just yucky. It really needs that whole time for the flavors to blend. We have found that the flavor is even better the next day and the next day, and this has really become a good recipe to use when you are planning ahead for leftover night.


*For me, one of the side effects of making Cincinnati Chili is that all day I'm singing the Cincinnati song in my head. You know, from the old Babes in Toyland movie with Drew Barrymore and Keanu Reeves? You know that one, right? Where they live in Cincinnati? And they sing, "C-I-N-C-I-N-N-A-T-I Cincinnati. The best town in O-H-I-O, Ohio USA. At first they called it Cinci, but since Cinci is so nati, they named it Cincinnati, so they say?" Everybody sing along with me now! Sadly, IMDB has no photo for this movie. Because it had some great lines, like "He's got trolls! Hundreds of trolls, who ate all the cookies!" Luckily, I own this gem, so if you come to visit we can watch together and sing about Cincinnati.

Oh, I found a picture! The Internet never lets me down.

Friday, January 18, 2008

another tale

I thought I was the first. I thought I had found a gem, and that, for the first time, I was going to be able to tell people about something they hadn’t heard of before. Boy, was I wrong. Before I even had a chance to write my comments and review, Chloe mentions that she already knew and that she was gathering with women that night to talk about it. What? How? And then Housewife tells me that she knows, too! And that Janssen is the one that told her! Why, that little… So I do a little checking, and not only did Janssen know first, she knew all the way back in October 2007. How did I miss that? Man, do I feel like a fool.

Anyway, I thought I had picked The Thirteenth Tale, by Diane Setterfield, at random. I thought it was “some secret treasure.” And for me, it really was. It got off to a little bit of a rocky start for me, and I wasn’t sure if I thought it was the strangest, well-written story ever, or if I just enjoyed it. In the end I just enjoyed it. The story was engaging and the writing was superb.

One of my favorite passages from this book came near the end, as the main character, Margaret Lea, speaks of breaking down and loosing herself in her grief.

When I came to myself Dr. Clifton was there. He put an arm around me. "I know," he said. "I know."

He didn't know, of course. Not really. And yet that was what he said, and I was soothed to hear it. For I knew what he meant. We all have our sorrows, and although the exact delineaments, weight and dimensions of grief are different for everyone, the color of grief is common to us all. "I know," he said, because he was human, and therefore, in a way, he did.
This book was the most enjoyable I’ve read in a long time. I’m kicking myself for not picking it up when Janssen originally reviewed it, but I tell you this cautionary tale so you don’t make the same mistake.